Some like to do things the hard way. Me, I like the easy path. 

I started off my counseling career as a parenting expert, but find that when I can help moms & dads make major changes during the preconception and pregnancy stages, it's GOOD for parents and GREAT for the kids!!!

Recommended Uses:

• Once a year during spring cleaning - “clean the energy” in each room of your house
• When moving into a new home - clear the space of the prior inhabitants – especially if the place feels a little “icky” energetically
• If processing a lot of dense emotions (i.e. grief, bereavement, divorce, depression, anxiety) - use when you’re ready to lighten the space

Ingredients:

·      Epsom Salt
·      Rubbing Alcohol
·      An old ceramic mug (it’ll get ruined)
·      Matches
·      Pyrex bowl
·      Water
·      Trivet or heating pad
·      Spoon

Directions:

1.     Pick one room to start with. Open the windows (at least a crack) and all closet doors, cabinets, drawers, jewelry boxes, trunks, etc.

2.     Assemble the feng shui cleaner: fill the mug ¾ full with Epsom salt (make sure it’s pretty even as if you were measuring it), and then slowly pour alcohol into the same mug. The alcohol line should be about ¼ inch higher than the salt line in the mug.

3.     Sit the mug inside a Pyrex bowl filled with a fair amount of water (safety precaution #1). Next, position the bowl on top of a heating pad (safety precaution #2) in the center of the room to be cleared.

4.     Light a flame to the alcohol solution (initially the flame may be several inches tall), then leave the room so you’re not breathing in the fumes, and close the door behind you. The fire will pull all the old, dense energy into the Epsom salt and the flame will subside on its own when the treatment is finished.

5.     Set a timer for 30 minutes then check to see if the flame is still going. If it is, close the door again, and let it go another 5-10 minutes before rechecking.  It’s kind of like waiting for a cake… Keeping the door shut will make the whole thing go faster.

6.     When the flame has died out on its own, pick up the mug, and then use the spoon to scoop & dump the salt mixture into the toilet. Flush a few times, making sure you don’t spill the salt solution, which is now holding all the gunk.

(Note: You don’t want to stop the treatment early, but do get rid of the salty gunk before it hardens so much you can’t get it out of the cup. It’s okay if the surface is a little crusty; the spoon should poke through the crust fairly easily.)

7.     Get going on the next room with a fresh solution in the old cup – keep it around for periodic cleanings.

•  Number of women (ages 15-44) with impaired ability to have children: 7.3 million - that's almost 12%

•  Number of women ages 15-44 seeking infertility treatment: 7.3 million

•  Average success rates of fertility treatments hover near 24% (birth rate, not conception rate) 

•  Couples who go through 3 rounds of treatments (& can handle the "financial and mental strain") have about 66% chance of conceiving

•  1/3 of infertility issues are linked to the male partner; 2/3 to the female partner

•  11% of couples who already have a child go on to experience secondary infertility

In "part 1", I introduced Laura, a client who worked with me to holistically overcome the infertility issues she and her husband had been experiencing. Some of you may want to understand a little more about HOW she was able to “overcome” some of the fears she had, to get a sense of what that means on a physical level, or how this all plays out in the course of a typical session.

So put your micro-focus glasses on, batman! I want to help you wrap your head around at least a few of the details of this fertility to conception story.

Laura was working with me remotely, meaning we did our sessions via phone. One day, we connected up and started our time as we usually did, with a period of check-ins. How was your week? What have you noticed since our last meeting? How did your home/self-treatment go? Is anything in particular up for you right now?

Laura reported having had a pretty good week, and that she really felt some of the issues we’d done some healing work on during the previous session totally melt away. We had honed in on some sticking points for her around being a woman (and she’s not alone, let me tell you…) such as: being discriminated against at work because she’s attractive, feeling like she has to be perfect as a woman in order to be taken seriously, and feeling betrayed by her own body because she couldn’t get pregnant without help. She was excited to tell me how differently she was feeling about all of that stuff.

At the same time, however, she felt confused. Because she could tell that there was some really great shifting happening in her life because of our work, and she truly was excited about that. But at the same time, it seemed like every good shift came hand-in-hand with an increasing level of anxiety.

She didn’t know what to make of that. Why would anyone in their right mind feel MORE stressed when they could see they were making progress? Why wasn’t she simply happy?! She didn’t know.

From my perspective, when this kind of ambivalence shows up, it’s good information. It’s totally normal to feel (conscious or subconscious) conflict about healing. Think about it. If there wasn’t conflict on a certain level about something in your life changing – if there wasn’t some part of you that believed it was all going to backfire somehow – then you’d seamlessly and easily change. Simple as that. Change would have already happened! So when clients become more aware of what their conflicts are about the healing process, I know we’re getting somewhere!

Laura wasn’t sure why she felt anxious, though. She just felt it. So our first step was to do a little meditation that both helped her to find where in her body the stress was located (stomach, neck, and forehead) and also what the stress was about.

As she tuned in, the fears started to show up to the spotlight. What if I’m making a mistake by not going ahead with the fertility procedures my doctor wanted me to do? What must my doctor think of me? She probably thinks I’m stupid or naïve. What if I AM stupid and naïve to think this will all help? What if this energy-work-stuff doesn’t work and it’s my fault for trying? Or worse yet, what if I fail at it somehow, and I prolong the entire timeline?  


Can you relate? Would you be glad to:

-Feel faithful in trusting your internal wisdom?

-Use the suggestions of professionals to support you in finding your personal truth (not overriding it)?

-And my personal favorite, confidently take alternative paths in life even when there’s pressure to stay on the mainstream road?


So what happens once a person identifies the fears that are making their stomachs clench, or the traumas that are paralyzing their change process? We tune in to figure out which healing process will work best for them (we individualize this part) to shift out those fears and traumas.

Laura noticed that some of her fears calmed a bit just in the process of naming them out loud. This is normal, and in fact is what traditional therapy is all about. But I didn’t want her anxieties to go just from an overwhelmingly high 10 to a still high 8… I wanted her distress down at a 1 or 2. So we utilized a technique that’s designed to do just that. We shifted into full-on healing mode, which took about ten minutes that day. And then it was basically done, so we moved on. So it continued during our weekly sessions that spanned the next few months… uncovering the subconscious stuff sitting in the body, then moving it out. Uncover, shift, rinse, and repeat.

As everything unfolded during our time together, Laura felt more aligned, more at ease, and more empowered around this big picture of wanting to have kids. And as you know, she did end up getting pregnant just a short while later. Win-win… she had a baby to look forward to & she cleared up a lot of gunk everywhere in her life in the meantime. 

That's what this work is all about, the win-win. What's good for your fertility is benefitial everywhere in your world... :)



P.S. If you think you might like to learn more about the emotional side to fertility - let's talk. Fill out the form on www.aufertility.com/discovery to see if it's right for you.