Sacred sexuality is simply about acknowledging all of the healing & communication possible during intimacy.
What do I mean? Say, for example, you’ve just realized that you’re ready to stop being over-responsible for everyone else so that you can focus a little more of your nurturing energy on yourself. When you’re connecting with your husband, take a few breaths to engage your heart, imagine you’re sending him the message that this is who you are now – and that he’s welcome to shift, too – and then imagine the memo reaches him as if it were an email, almost.
Then, focus back on enjoying the connection/sensation/pleasure of the moment – it’s done!
I’m not suggesting you skip conversation. But verbal communication can have its limits – maybe you’ve noticed. :) He might not understand (on the cognitive level) how your upgrade is actually good for him, or perhaps what it is that you’re talking about in the first place! Sacred sexuality bypasses all that. So give it a try.
(If you don’t have a partner, a modified version of this same idea works great with kids & other loved ones, given through hugs, or snuggling on the sofa, or massages – whatever feels appropriate!)